One key cause of rebellion against homework is that kids (especially our GT kiddos) struggle to find value in the homework. Why should I have to do it? They can have an existential crisis over a single sheet of math facts practice.
Tasks are easiest to accomplish when tied to specific routines. By establishing daily routines for homework completion, you will not only make homework go more smoothly, but you will also be fostering a sense of order your child can apply to later life, including college and work.
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Step 1. Find a location in the house where homework will be done. The right location will depend on your child and the culture of your family. Some children do best at a desk in their bedroom. It is a quiet location, away from the hubbub of family noise. Other children become too distracted by the things they keep in their bedroom and do better at a place removed from those distractions, like the dining room table. Some children need to work by themselves. Others need to have parents nearby to help keep them on task and to answer questions when problems arise. Ask your child where the best place is to work. Both you and your child need to discuss pros and cons of different settings to arrive at a mutually agreed upon location.
Step 2. Set up a homework center. Once you and your child have identified a location, fix it up as a home office/homework center. Make sure there is a clear workspace large enough to set out all the materials necessary for completing assignments. Outfit the homework center with the kinds of supplies your child is most likely to need, such as pencils, pens, colored markers, rulers, scissors, a dictionary and thesaurus, graph paper, construction paper, glue and cellophane tape, lined paper, a calculator, spell checker, and, depending on the age and needs of your child, a computer or laptop. If the homework center is a place that will be used for other things (such as the dining room table), then your child can keep the supplies in a portable crate or bin. If possible, the homework center should include a bulletin board that can hold a monthly calendar on which your child can keep track of longterm assignments. Allowing children some leeway in decorating the homework center can help them feel at home there, but you should be careful that it does not become too cluttered with distracting materials.
Step 3. Establish a homework time. Your child should get in the habit of doing homework at the same time every day. The time may vary depending on the individual child. Some children need a break right after school to get some exercise and have a snack. Others need to start homework while they are still in a school mode (i.e., right after school when there is still some momentum left from getting through the day). In general, it may be best to get homework done either before dinner or as early in the evening as the child can tolerate. The later it gets, the more tired the child becomes and the more slowly the homework gets done.
Step 4. Establish a daily homework schedule. In general, at least into middle school, the homework session should begin with your sitting down with your child and drawing up a homework schedule. You should review all the assignments and make sure your child understands them and has all the necessary materials. Ask your child to estimate how long it will take to complete each assignment. Then ask when each assignment will get started. If your child needs help with any assignment, then this should be determined at the beginning so that the start times can take into account parent availability. A Daily Homework Planner is included at the end of this handout and contains a place for identifying when breaks may be taken and what rewards may be earned.
Many children who are not motivated by the enjoyment of doing homework are motivated by the high grade they hope to earn as a result of doing a quality job. Thus, the grade is an incentive, motivating the child to do homework with care and in a timely manner. For children who are not motivated by grades, parents will need to look for other rewards to help them get through their nightly chores. Incentive systems fall into two categories: simple and elaborate.
Building in breaks. These are good for the child who cannot quite make it to the end without a small reward en route. When creating the daily homework schedule, it may be useful with these children to identify when they will take their breaks. Some children prefer to take breaks at specific time intervals (every 15 minutes), while others do better when the breaks occur after they finish an activity. If you use this approach, you should discuss with your child how long the breaks will last and what will be done during the breaks (get a snack, call a friend, play one level on a video game). The Daily Homework Planner includes sections where breaks and end-of-homework rewards can be identified.
Building in choice. This can be an effective strategy for parents to use with children who resist homework. Choice can be incorporated into both the order in which the child agrees to complete assignments and the schedule they will follow to get the work done. Building in choice not only helps motivate children but can also reduce power struggles between parents and children.
Step 1. Describe the problem behaviors. Parents and children decide which behaviors are causing problems at homework time. For some children putting homework off to the last minute is the problem; for others, it is forgetting materials or neglecting to write down assignments. Still others rush through their work and make careless mistakes, while others dawdle over assignments, taking hours to complete what should take only a few minutes. It is important to be as specific as possible when describing the problem behaviors. The problem behavior should be described as behaviors that can be seen or heard; for instance, complains about homework or rushes through homework, making many mistakes are better descriptors than has a bad attitude or is lazy.
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RINGGGG! School is back in session! With a brand new school year comes new teachers, new classrooms, and ready or not, the all too familiar tidal wave of homework assignments. As a parent or caregiver, assisting your young students with their homework is often challenging, even at the best of times. (Who remembers Algebra? Anyone?) To guide you along, here are some books about helping your kids with their schoolwork, as well as some supplemental picture books about homework to read together with your littlest scholars that will hopefully get everyone in the mood to tackle those assignments!
You must give the responsibility of doing homework back to your child. You don't have homework to do, he does. Let him suffer the consequences of failing to turn in work or handing in sloppy work. It should be an issue between him and his teacher. Be sure, however, to explain to his teacher that you have been helping your child with his homework and will no longer be doing so.
Sit down with your son today and set some new rules. Tell him he is now in charge of doing his work and you will no longer be issuing homework reminders or supervising his work. At the same time, point out this responsibility comes with an obligation to do well. If his grades fall, explain you will need to establish a penalty for not doing homework, such as eliminating television viewing or having friends over.
One reason your child may hate homework so much is because you have insisted that he complete it before being able to enjoy more pleasurable activities. Many children need a period of relaxation and playing with friends before tackling homework. When your son is able to set his own time for doing homework, he may not find homework as unpleasant a task.
For some good advice about disengaging from homework battles, we recommend that you read Ending the Homework Hassle by John Rosemond. At the same time, your son could profit from reading How To Do Homework Without Throwing Up by Trevor Romain for some witty insights about homework.
The new school year is around the corner. We all need to help parents make this a less hassled year than the one just past. My colleagues and I, in our new e-book, Emotionally Intelligent Parenting, have a series of parenting "sound bites" that give parents quick tips on common issues related to parenting.These include curfews, bedtimes, dealing with lying and cheating, and, of course, homework. Below is our "sound parenting bite" for making homework less stressful.
There was a time when I thought that homework was something to be done immediately upon coming home, and that other things... phone calls, television, the internet, playing with friends, breathing... all had to wait until homework was completed. This turns out to not be good advice. My change of opinion has to do with the effect of frustration and stress on most children, and the importance of a sense of hope and optimism. Martin E.P. Seligman, author of Learned Optimism, has done extensive research on the importance of hope and a positive outlook on getting people to mobilize their best effort, particularly when struggling.
Regardless, hope and optimism are important in helping us to persist in difficult or challenging tasks. We usually need to see "light at the end of the tunnel" and know that our engine can get us there! Something else happens when we start to feel the stress of impending failure. We get upset. We get desperate. We start to worry and our thinking actually gets narrower. It gets harder and harder to see connections and answers that are right there in front of us. 2ff7e9595c
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